Aren’t you the chosen one?
If your life is a movie, would you be the main character?
I spent many sleepless nights pondering this question.
I’ve read so many books where I wish I could swap lives with the protagonist. But if a book were to be written about my life, would I be the main character?
This curious question of a teenage girl turned into the philosophical musing of a young adult, which ultimately turned into the life motto of a twenty-something: No matter what kind of life I lead, if my life were a movie, I would be the main character.
And did you know, you could be the main character of your life even without realizing it? This post lists five traits you’ll surely have if you are the hero of your life.
1. You don’t let the control slip away.
Things don’t happen to you. You make things happen.
One failure doesn’t define your identity. It’s just a step along the way.
Life is filled with infinite possibilities. You don’t function by always reacting to the things around you. You take charge.
Faced rejection in your work? It doesn’t matter. You’ll polish your work and apply elsewhere.
Someone spotted a lot of mistakes in what you prepared? It’s alright. You’ll work on them and make notes so that nothing like that ever repeats again.
You’re not a victim. You’re the hero of your life.
Things happen around you. You don’t wait for the pieces to fall into place.
2. You don’t take no for an answer.
Not in a creepy way when you disrespect consent or disregard boundaries.
Rather, when destiny smashes you down, you yell back at her, “I’m not going to stay down.” You pull yourself up, fight against all odds, and carve a victory for yourself.
The journey might take a lot longer than you thought. You might even have to lose several times before that final lap.
But you stick on, refusing to let circumstances get the better of you.
3. You are a born leader.
It doesn’t mean you regularly give speeches or find yourself at the podium to motivate an auditorium full of people.
It’s just that you walk around with all the boundless energy of the universe within your soul. Whoever comes in contact with you leaves with a smile, something valuable to learn.
The people around you (your friends, colleagues, social media followers, etc.) often tell you they are inspired by your work. They say you are the reason a significant change occurred in their lives.
“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.” — John Quincy Adams.
4. You know what you’re worth.
You’re aware of the magic that flows in your beating heart.
You know you’re special, that you’re unique.
You know you’ll have a happy ending, no matter how hard the cynicism of the world tries to dampen your spirit.
You know what you’re capable of. You know how hard you can try. You know how badly you can fail, but you also know with how much dedication you’ll return to the fight.
You know what you’re worth. You’ll not settle for anything less.
5. You aren’t afraid to love with all your heart.
Love might hurt. It might inevitably result in heartbreak, but you know what magic it’s capable of.
You know the insurmountable beauty love can bring about, and you aren’t afraid to taste it.
Even if it ends in pain, you know joy and pain are but two sides of the same coin: both equally inevitable. Both equally transient.
The love might fade into pain, but the fear isn’t greater than your curiosity. It isn’t greater than your willingness to accept all the gifts the Universe can bestow upon you.
You love like you laugh: open, honest, raw. Yes, it might also be delicate and fragile, but that’s what makes it so precious. That’s what makes life worth living.
Author Jonathan Ames wrote in You Were Never Really Here, “All human beings are the star of their own very important film, a film in which they are both camera and actor; a film in which they are always playing the fearful and lonely hero who gets up each day hoping to finally strike upon the life they are meant to lead, though they never do.”
Perhaps this is true.
Perhaps there are people who walk around in the hope that today might be their day.
But you are not like that. You don’t wait for the opportunity; you seize it. You know what you’re worth and you don’t take no for an answer, especially when it comes to settling for something less than what you deserve.
If you’re the main character of your life, you’re a born leader and you don’t shy away from loving with all your heart.
After all, we all get only one life. You know how to make the most of it.